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Showing posts with label miscellaneous. Show all posts

June 23, 2014

Ever Wonder Why It Takes 6 or More Years for a Person to Write/Publish a Book?

Reflections While Writing My First Book, Unraveling My Father's Suicide

"Ever wonder why it sometimes takes people 6 or 9 years to write/publish their book? Well, I'm learning why.

The process of writing a book is full of surprises, especially when it is one's first book ever written. My lawyer wants to introduce a new contract between me and my editor. Copyright stuff. Sounds like a good idea. Sounds easy. I give the go ahead. I get the draft of the contract and it has mucho legalese. I am not keen on legalese and my guess is that my editor isn't either.

With so many other things going on, I don't have time to think through this right now, but I imagine you can see that addressing this would interrupt the schedule, especially a schedule that has been written by a novice writer. Add a 'zillion' of these surprises, and you can see how the publication date gets pushed out.

Still hanging in there,
Kathleen"

- Unraveling My Father's Suicide, Facebook Post

Photos from my book:
My father with the first five of us six children.


Statue of Mary with Jesus at the Foot of the 
Cross after His Crucifixion.  At Mount Calvary 



images - personal files

December 14, 2013

Killing Off Baby Jesus


This is a reprint of an article I wrote in 2010.  I can't wait for the day when I can reprint it and say the tide has turned for the better.  Today is not that day.


Copyright (c) 2010 originally published in The Valley Patriot, reprinted with permission.

That is what Christmas is about these days. Killing off and eliminating Baby Jesus from the Christmas season.  It’s infanticide, of sorts.

For example, Happy Holidays, Happy Hanukah and Season’s Greetings are okay, but Merry Christmas is out. Holiday Gathering and Tree Lighting Day are okay, but Christmas Party is not. Santa Claus and his reindeer and elves are in all the stores and homes, but St. Nicholas has long been forgotten.

The extended gift buying in December, and now November, has become the norm.  The shift occurred during World War II, when many Americans were stationed overseas in the military. People here bought their gifts early in December to insure that the packages would arrive in time for Christmas. Merchants enjoyed the extra revenue that year, that they expanded advertising and sales of Christmas merchandise earlier into December on an ongoing basis. Commercialization is now rampant.

Christmas carols are often diluted or replaced with secular songs. (Heaven forbid we say the name of Jesus in public.)  Prayers are nowhere to be found in family celebrations, and employees are told to take down their pictures of Jesus, Mary and Joseph, because they might offend someone.

This de-Christianization of Christmas has greater problems. Other things get killed off with Baby Jesus. For instance, Advent is gone. It is the pre-Christmas preparation for the coming of Jesus, and it has been replaced with the extended gift buying season mentioned above. February 2 is another example. It has traditionally been a marking of the Presentation of Baby Jesus in the Temple. It is 40 days after Christmas, because in Hebrew tradition, the 40th day after birth is considered the  last stage of birth when the mother brings the child to Temple. This Feast Day has been replaced with Groundhog Day.

All is not lost, though. There are ways we can reverse the trend. We can speak up about the dangers of removing Nativity scenes, and point out the benefits of keeping them. Instead of remaining silent, we can dare to say Merry Christmas to others.  We can also bring St. Nicholas back into Christmas celebrations, and curb extensive gift buying, replacing it with Advent and its wonderful practices for reflection and preparation.

We can do something new, like learn the genealogy of Jesus. His lineage is recorded in two places in the Bible, Matthew 1:1–17 and Luke 3:23–38.  One account is from Joseph’s side, and the other is from Mary’s side.  Both accounts are rich with interesting characters that can be weaved into the Christmas story. The origin of the date of Christmas, December 25, is another topic that can be researched. For many years, people thought it was arbitrarily chosen in an attempt to override a pagan holiday, but it was not. Recent research by Thomas J. Talley testifies to that.

Taking any of these steps can gradually bring Baby Jesus back to life, and lead to a revitalization of Christianity, something we terribly need. Ben Stein, a speech writer for Presidents Nixon and Ford, could see this back in 2005. At that time, he provided some insightful commentary about what I call the infanticide of Baby Jesus.

He said, “I am a Jew, and every single one of my ancestors was Jewish. And it does not bother me even a little bit when people call those beautiful lit up, bejeweled trees Christmas trees. I don’t feel threatened. I don’t feel discriminated against. That’s what they are: Christmas trees. It doesn’t bother me a bit when people say, ‘Merry Christmas’ to me. I don’t think they are slighting me or getting ready to put me in a ghetto. In fact, I kind of like it. It shows that we are all brothers and sisters celebrating this happy time of year. It doesn’t bother me at all that there is a manger scene on display at a key intersection near my beach house in Malibu. If people want a crèche, it’s just as fine with me as is the Menorah a few hundred yards away.”

Along those lines, Merry Christmas to all! ;-)

Kathleen Laplante is a member of the Catholic Church. She can be reached at klaplante2@yahoo.com

Copyright (c) 2010 originally published in The Valley Patriot, reprinted with permission.


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October 31, 2013

Spiritual Complacency




When I reach a point in my spiritual life where everything seems to flow together, I relax and enjoy it.  I also give Glory to God and thank Him.  I have been in that space for awhile now, and recently I wondered if I am being complacent, when actually, I realized it is not only that I have not stretched myself beyond my long-time practices of the Catholic Faith, but I have let things lapse.

I took an inventory:
Daily Mass - I used to go three times a week, then two times, and now only occasionally.
Sunday Mass - I do make that obligation.
Confession - I used to go every other week, and now I go once every month to month and a half.  I know the obligation is much less often than that, but I also know, I need it much more to maintain a healthy spiritual life for myself.
Eucharistic Adoration - I used to go once a week and now it is once a month.
ProLife Involvement - I founded and ran a walkathon for girls/women facing crisis pregnancies and ran it five times.  Since that has ended, I have not substituted anything active for it.

Now, granted, I have taken on more work, so I have some justification for all of this, but not enough for my comfort level.  When I look at that list above, I panic.  How could I let so much lapse?  How could I let my Faith erode out from under me, without realizing it until now?

Busy-ness, sloth, and distraction, among others.  Busy-ness and distraction are obvious - Do do do; keep up on everything going on with friends, the community, the world, etc. Sloth, on the other hand comes from not doing, i.e., it comes from becoming less intentional with my spiritual growth/life.  The process was so subtle, but so is the Devil.  How much more will result in my selling my soul to him?  I don't want to find out, so I started giving myself a spiritual boost. I went to Adoration more; I still have not gone to Confession; I have gone to Daily Mass, and I have attended a study group on Pope Francis' first encyclical.  I have also made friends with a Religious Education teacher, and our conversations are edifying.  They help to re-enforce what I hold dear about our Faith.  I also contacted the woman in charge of the local Women's Bible Study group.

The Bible study is one that involves several other people, and where there are two or three gathered in Jesus Christ's name, there is Jesus as well.  Or, as the old adage goes, there is strength in numbers, so some type of activity with a group is a good idea.  I have found it to be helpful in pushing myself along the spiritual path.  Examples of groups include:
- Explore and study an encyclical
- Hand out socks and clothing and bath supplies to the homeless once a month
- Explore and study the upcoming Sunday readings each week... and then go out to eat afterward
- Pray together at the local Planned Parenthood
- Take trips together to local churches and/or shrines...  Read about them beforehand
- Read and discuss spiritual books

If a group does not exist in your area, consider starting one.  Be sure to find one other person to do it with... Strength in numbers again.

Why do I write this? 
"..so that you may not become sluggish, but imitators of those who, through faith and patience, are inheriting the promises."  ~ Hebrews 6:12 [NABRE]

In other words, I share in the hopes that others who have become less intentional with their spiritual discipline, will receive a wake up call and come back closer to Christ - before it is too late. I also write this to make it more real and compelling for myself.


Here are some other thought provoking quotes about this topic:

There is no place for complacency in a soul confronted with the temptation to turn a blind eye to the plight of the poor and unemployed or the hungry who need to be fed just because you have what they don’t. No excuse for not bothering, not paying attention because you have more important things to think about, more urgent business to attend to, more congenial friends to entertain, more noble causes to pursue, so that, as the writer says, you make “the needy eyes to wait long” for compassion, for the ready hand, for justice you could help obtain. Complacency is contentment with views that are sexist, sexually superior, or with color-prejudice, with social exclusion, with pleasure registered over failure and un-success. All this because as the rich young man in the Gospels we are in the habit of seeking to justify ourselves when we smoothly murmur “And who, just who, is my neighbor?”
To the Psalms we just sang: “Not unto us O Lord, not unto us, but unto thy name do we give the praise —.” When we remember in the nick of time that “It is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves: we are his people and the sheep of his pasture.” (Psalm 10 v. 2)
Let the Apostle Paul have the last word, It is a zinger: “Who makes you, my friend, so important? What do you possess that was not given me?” (I Cor. 4 v. 7)
http://www.saintthomaschurch.org/worship/calendar/archive/view/2611


Jesus said the church of the last days would battle a cancer just as insidious as the one Doug’s brother had. It is the cancer of complacency. Jesus describes it using the word “lukewarm.” When you are lukewarm, you’re not close enough to Christ to be sold out, and you are not far enough from Christ to be totally indifferent. Instead, you are somewhere in the middle.
Principle: If you settle for lukewarm Christianity, you need to know that it will cost you your fellowship and intimacy with Jesus Christ.
http://www.sermoncentral.com/sermons/what-would-jesus-say-to-a-complacent-christian-tim-huie-sermon-on-commitment-to-christ-121624.asp


12 At that time,
I will search Jerusalem with lamps,

I will punish the people

who settle like dregs in wine,
Who say in their hearts,
“The Lord will not do good,
nor will he do harm.”  ~ Zephaniah 1:12

..then your heart will become proud and you will forget the LORD your God who brought you out from the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery.       
..so that you may not become sluggish, but imitators of those who, through faith and patience, are inheriting the promises. ~ Hebrews 6:12

Rise up, you women who are at ease, And hear my voice; Give ear to my word, You complacent daughters.  ~Isaiah 32:9


Complacent:  adjective
1. pleased, especially with oneself or one's merits, advantages, situation, etc., often without awareness of some potential danger or defect; self-satisfied.  ~ dictionary.com
Complacent:  adjective
1. Contented to a fault; self-satisfied and unconcerned.  ~ thefreedictionary.com



images - http://vimeo.com/67770479
http://www.managingamericans.com/BlogFeed/Leadership-Teambuilding/Complacency-in-the-Workplace.htm 


December 25, 2011

Christmas Greetings on the Feast of the Nativity

Christ is Born! Glorify Him!

Merry Christmas to all!

This year has been filled with gifts and graces from the Holy Trinity.  I am blessed with two sons who continue to show me they love me in numerous ways.  I am also blessed with several friends from each of the groups I do things with.  There is a lot going on in my heart.

May you and yours receive the peace of Christ in your hearts, and may your Christmas be holy!

Kathleen



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November 20, 2011

Coca-Cola Cake Spawns Yearning For The Good Old Days



A friend of mine drinks a lot of Coca-Cola, so those of us planning his birthday party last week, decided Coke would be a great theme for his cake.  Voila!  There it is up there.  I made it. :-)  It was so fun, labor intensive, but worth it.

At the same time, I found the old Coca-Cola song on line.  Wow, that's when the world was a lot simpler.

I'd Like to Buy the World a Coke

♪♫♪♫ I'd like to buy the world a home and furnish it with love,
Grow apple trees and honey bees, and snow white turtle doves.
I'd like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony,
I'd like to buy the world a Coke and keep it company.

It's the real thing, Coke is what the world wants today. ♪♫♪♫


image - personal file

October 21, 2011

The Pharisees Exist Among Us

I asked a friend of mine recently for a ride to the bus stop, where I was going to catch a bus to see my son.  His reply was basically no.  His reason?  He had to attend his Bible study.  Now I know we are not supposed to judge others, but I can't help myself in this case.  I know him.  He goes to his Bible study group every week, and has gone every week for at least a couple years.

I can't help but think that this person is being like the Pharisees, who couldn't see the forest for the trees. They challenged Jesus because His disciples took, cleaned and ate some grain from a field they walked through on a Sabbath. They were quite hungry and were taking it for food, not for harvest. The Pharisees, however, claimed that Jesus allowed His disciples to work on the Sabbath.

Jesus and the Pharisees

Jesus reminded them that there are exceptions to laws.  In this case, when a person needs something very much, God's love is more important than His law.  The Pharisees were hyper-focused on the "rule" or the "law", such that they didn't see the bigger picture, which in this case is charity to a fellow Christian. 

In my example, my friend could not extend himself by missing his Bible study to bring me to the bus stop.  I may be off in my judgment of him, but even so, my idea is still valid.  We all know many Catholics who can not see the forest for the trees.  They are the Pharisees among us today.  I know, because, at times, I am one of them.

"Oh, Dear Jesus, please give me the grace to see clearly,
so that I may imitate You more closely."



image - http://www.stmaryswestmelbourne.org/homilies/95-twenty-second-sunday-in-ordinary-time-b.html

September 23, 2011

Revisiting Friday Penance

Have you given your Friday penance* serious consideration recently?  Is it truly suitable to you?  For example, if you abstain from meat every Friday, but you are a vegetarian, is your abstaining really a sacrifice?  Are you really fulfilling the spirit of the penance requirement?

It may be time to do something different.  If you are vegetarian, but you love ice cream, maybe it would be more fitting to abstain from ice cream on Fridays.  Give it some thought.



* In the Eastern Catholic Church, there are two days of fast and abstinence, Wednesday and Friday.  And the practice is to abstain from all foods that come from animals (meats, poultry, dairy products, eggs).  Read more about it here. 

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September 20, 2011

Christian Attitude

Jesus Washing the Apostles' Feet
I manage the Facebook Page for the Melkite Greek Catholic Church I attend.  I have been posting entries from the Primer of beliefs and traditions from the Eparchy of Newton's web site.  Today's was Christian Attitude.

Christian Attitude

The proper attitude of a follower of Jesus Christ is clearly written on every page of the New Testament: To be a servant to one another. As fallen human beings we have a desire for others to treat us with respect, honor, deference. Jesus taught us by His own sublime example, that this is wrong. He taught us that in His Kingdom the one who considers himself least is the greatest! As St. Basil the Great wrote: "Though He was in the bosom of His God and Father since before the beginning of time, He emptied Himself and took the form of a servant."

What is a servant? A servant is someone who is concerned about the needs of others rather than his on needs and who seeks not to receive respect but to give it to others. The paradox is that in this self-emptying (which we call metanoia) that we receive the highest possible honor: the Imitation of Christ our Savior!" - http://melkite.org/PRIMER.htm#Attitude

I have a hard time with this.  I think most people do in our society.  We can't seem to distinguish between being a servant and being a slave.  Where is the line crossed?  I don't know the answer, but I am pretty sure my mind tells me I am closer to the slave line more often than I really am.  Hence, I could be of service to more people than I currently am, and hence, most of us probably could be of more service than we are.

To top it off, there are groups like the Slaves of the Immaculate Heart of Mary.  I don't know if that is a proper use of the word.  I am an editor, so I seek these things out.  Slave usually connotes unwillful servitude.  I know there is nothing unwillful about these Slaves; I have seen some of them in action.  So I just don't get it.  I'll keep searching though.

"Lord Jesus, show me the way."


image - http://therosarytrail.com/jesus-as-servant/

September 05, 2011

God doesn't call the qualified, He qualifies the called!

This is for your reading pleasure on this wonderful Labor Day 2011.
It is floating around on Facebook.
 


Jacob was a cheater, Peter had a temper, David had an affair, Noah got drunk, Jonah ran from God, Paul was a murderer, Gideon was insecure, Miriam was a gossiper, Martha a worrier, Thomas a doubter, Sara impatient, Elijah was moody, Moses stuttered, Abraham was old,… and Lazarus was dead....

God doesn't call the qualified, He qualifies the called!


Re-post this if you know you are not perfect but that God is working in your life anyway =)


image - http://www.examiner.com/presbyterian-in-oklahoma-city/a-new-look-at-the-old-testament-the-story-the-story

July 29, 2011

June 20, 2011

Blog Blog Blog



Maybe I should go on the Nate Berkus Show for design tips with my blog.  I am in a state flux.  I want brighter colors, so I apply them, but then I want my more neutral, traditional colors back.  It must be the summer weather.  Maybe I'll use one combo May to September, and the other combo October to April.  Who knows?

I hope you stay interested and keep reading.

Kathleen

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June 10, 2011

Go Bruins!

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Stanley Cup Playoff
Game 3

I'm not a hockey follower, but like many other people, I step up to the plate during championships, and we have a good one on our hands - Boston Bruins vs. Vancouver Canucks.  The physical hitting and fighting is ridiculous (stop fighting boys), silly, childish, and dangerous, e.g., Nathan Horton's concussion leading to him not being able to play in the last four games, but sometimes I succumb to the "if you can't beat them, join them" approach.  This is one of those times.  Go Bruins! 

Game 5, tonight, NBC, 8 p.m.

P.S. You never know where alliances fall.  I called my sister who has lived in Western Canada for over 20 years and wished her good luck when the playoff began.  She called me back and said she and her husband are rooting for Boston, not Canada.  Too funny.

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image - http://watch-nhllive.blogspot.com/2011/06/vancouver-canucks-vs-boston-bruins-live.html
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June 08, 2011

I Have Returned

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Well, I couldn't have picked a better spot at which to take a break from my blog two months ago.  That post has been the one everyone has seen when they clicked the links to get here.  Eucharistic Adoration For An End To All Abortion.  What a great message for newcomers and repeat visitors to see.  What great information for them to have.

I wasn't planning to take a break.  It just happened.  Life got busy with a visit from my sister who lives in Western Canada, with my son's college graduation, and with two trips to New York City, among other things.  I can't say I will be as active as I used to be, but I do hope to post more than once every two months.  :-) 

I hope everyone is enjoying the summer.  I certainly am.  I will take being hot with no air conditioning, any day over being cold with not enough heat, and there is never enough heat for me.

In Jesus, Mary, and Joseph,
Kathleen

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image - http://www.gamespot.com/users/phoenixgaiangel/blog
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March 22, 2011

Another Retraction In The News - Museum of Russian Icons

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Gordon Lankton,
Founder & Creator of the museum
Like Kirsten Powers did earlier this month, the Museum of Russian Icons is retracting what it said in the recent article about them returning their special collection to Russia, at Russia's request. See previous entry.
They won't be returning them after all, at least not for now anyhow.

Museum refuses to return icons.
Russian artwork on loan is not subject to seizure, State Dept. tells curator

Icon exhibit staying put
Dispute has Russian curator going home empty-handed


Happy Tuesday of the 2nd week of Lent!  I'll be writing about my Lenten challenges next time.

Kathleen


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March 15, 2011

God Is Good, Right?

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Did you ever pray for someone, asking God to bless them, and send them graces for their health and well-being, only to have them tell you later on, that they do not have time for you anymore?  You pray for someone else's well-being, and then you get the short end of the deal.  Yuck.

That happened to me yesterday.  Thankfully, I have enough experience to know that it is not about me, but it is about them doing God's will for them.  It hurts.  All the old ego-based thoughts come flooding forward, "Oh, yea, just wait until they see how awful their life is without me", "I hope they fall on their face", "I'm better than they are anyhow".  Not pretty.  Thank God, and I mean that literally, thank God I have the Faith. 

When I raise the situation up to His loving paradigm, I find peace.  I begin to hold on to the notion that God has good things in store for me too, that this is not just about that other person.  God is leading me to better things too.

It's just hard to hold onto that line of thinking in this mundane, weighted world.  With God though, all things are possible.  He will help me to get back on track with Him, if I give into my ego yearnings.  He will bring me to conversion, over and over again - as long as I keep talking to Him and asking Him for help.

Our Lady of Consolation, please pray for me.
Pray that He gives me the grace to be graceful in my future interactions with this person.

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January 29, 2011

The Reality of Suicide

This is an article based on a previous blog entry of mine.

** Triggers Present **

Copyright (c) 2011 originally published in The Valley Patriot, reprinted with permission.

The Reality of Suicide

My Dad tried it. I tried it. He used a belt.  I used pills. He physically cut off oxygen to his brain. I chemically cut it off. He “succeeded”. I “failed”. He died. I lived. 

He was 45 years old. I was in my 30’s.  He was depressed. So was I. He was alone in his apartment. So was I. He didn’t come back. I did. When I woke, I went to the hospital. My days and dates didn’t match those of the emergency room staff. We figured out that I had passed out for two days before I came to. No one knew I was there.

My father and I were both smart. One time in school, he advanced a grade, and then he did it again another year. I, similarly, was salutatorian (#2) of my high school class, and then I was first of my college engineering class. My Dad was acrobatic and did diving and stunts. I was a gymnast.  He had six wonderful children. I had two.

One of my paternal cousins also tried suicide. He used a gun. Like my father, he “succeeded”. Rumor has it that my paternal grandfather tried it too. He used water. If the rumor is true, he “succeeded”.

Suicide is real. The only statistic I will give is the number one. One suicide is too many.

It is well known that a child survivor of someone who has completed suicide is at high risk for doing the same, but there are many other instances that can be attended to. People often walk around contemplating suicide and suffering inside for a long time, so intervention is possible.

If you notice anyone is in a lot of emotional pain, is severely depressed or anxious, doesn’t want to live or has a plan to kill themselves, take them seriously. Call a suicide help line, 800-SUICIDE (800-784-2433) or 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255), or call 911 if you have to. Call your pastor, priest or rabbi. Just get help.

Even teenagers are susceptible to suicide.  Be direct and ask them if they have a plan. Talk to other members of your family. Go to the library and find resources near your home. Consider these Internet resources.

1) Recognizing the Warning Signs of Suicide - www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-recognizing-signs-ofsuicide

2) American Foundation for Suicide Prevention - www.afsp.org

3) If You Are Thinking About Suicide: Read This First - www.metanoia.org/suicide


5) Helping A Survivor Heal - www.survivorsofsuicide.com/help_heal.shtml

6) Out of the Darkness Walks - www.outofthedarkness.org

Remember, suicide usually happens when someone’s pain is greater than the resources they have for coping with that pain. So become a resource. 

Kathleen Laplante has since been committed to breaking the family cycle. She can be reached at klaplante2@yahoo.com


Copyright (c) 2011 originally published in The Valley Patriot, reprinted with permission.

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January 16, 2011

Hail Mary, Please Pray For Us Sinners, For We Know Not What We Do

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People often think that simplifying or modernizing the wording in documents, prayers, newspaper articles and letters is a good idea.  I beg to differ.

Take The Hail Mary for instance.  There is this new, modern version floating around the churches in my area.  I don't like it, so I ask, which version evokes more passion and draws you closer to Our Lord?


The Old Version
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
Now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

- or -

The Modern Version
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you.
Blessed art you among women,
and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
Now and at the hour of our death, Amen.


Some people might say the modern version, especially those who are already praying it in the churches near me, but I argue that the old version evokes more depth and texture and draws people more closely to Our Lord. 

Not familiar with the words in the old version?  Well, become familiar with them.  Don't throw them out.  Pray them, and pray that their essence be brought to you by the Holy Spirit - and by a good priest.  Study them.  Use them in your very own sentences.

Sometimes it takes more effort to get to the fruit of something, but contrary to our society, that is a good thing.

Unfortunately, the trend is to go along rather than work to experience things more fully.  I don't mean kill yourself, but really, learning challenging vocabulary never hurt anyone.  In fact, learning challenging vocabulary is edifying.


Here is another example.

"The State Department has decided to make U.S. passport application forms 'gender neutral' by removing references to mother and father, officials said, in favor of language that describes one's parentage somewhat less tenderly.

The change is 'in recognition of different types of families' [i.e. homosexual parenting ] ...

The new policy is a win for gay rights groups ... The decision follows last month's vote to end the military's "don't ask, don't tell" policy, which gay leaders consider one of their biggest victories in years.

Instead of reminding people that we come into this world by way of a mother and a father, and letting people feel uncomfortable who are in alternate, and immoral, situations, the government is going along to get along.  They are removing reference to biology so people can continue to live out their lies about their lifestyles.

I hope you are finding peace in this upheaval.

December 18, 2010

Fun Happenings At St. Benedict Abbey In Still River, MA

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The monastic community at St. Benedict Abbey in Still River, MA is known for its hospitality.  It is not uncommon for them to host a birthday party for someone in their extended lay community.  The most recent one was for Ralph, an avid New England Patriots Football fan who turned 40. 

I took the opportunity to make him a special birthday cake.



The cake ended up being a team effort, with two of the Brother monks and two other guests providing suggestions along the way.

Go team!!  St. Benedict Abbey team, that is.










Go Pats!! They have a game tomorrow. :-)

 
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December 14, 2010

Killing Off Baby Jesus

Copyright (c) 2010 originally published in The Valley Patriot, reprinted with permission.

That is what Christmas is about these days. Killing off and eliminating Baby Jesus from the Christmas season.  It’s infanticide,of sorts.

For example, Happy Holidays, Happy Hanukah and Season’s Greetings are okay, but Merry Christmas is out. Holiday Gathering and Tree Lighting Day are okay, but Christmas Party is not. Santa Claus and his reindeer and elves are in all the stores and homes, but St. Nicholas has long been forgotten.

The extended gift buying in December, and now November, has become the norm.  The shift occurred during World War II, when many Americans were stationed overseas in the military. People here bought their gifts early in December to insure that the packages would arrive in time for Christmas. Merchants enjoyed the extra revenue that year, that they expanded advertising and sales of Christmas merchandise earlier into December on an ongoing basis. Commercialization is now rampant.
Christmas carols are often diluted or replaced with secular songs. (Heaven forbid we say the name of Jesus in public.)  Prayers are nowhere to be found in family celebrations, and employees are told to take down their pictures of Jesus, Mary and Joseph, because they might offend someone.

This de-Christianization of Christmas has greater problems. Other things get killed off with Baby Jesus. For instance, Advent is gone. It is the pre-Christmas preparation for the coming of Jesus, and it has been replaced with the extended gift buying season mentioned above. February 2 is another example. It has traditionally been a marking of the Presentation of Baby Jesus in the Temple. It is 40 days after Christmas, because in Hebrew tradition, the 40th day after birth is considered the  last stage of birth when the mother brings the child to Temple. This Feast Day has been replaced with Groundhog Day.

All is not lost, though. There are ways we can reverse the trend. We can speak up about the dangers of removing Nativity scenes, and point out the benefits of keeping them. Instead of remaining silent, we
can dare to say Merry Christmas to others.  We can also bring St. Nicholas back into Christmas celebrations, and curb extensive gift buying, replacing it with Advent and its wonderful practices for reflection and preparation.

We can do something new, like learn the genealogy of Jesus. His lineage is recorded in two places in the Bible, Matthew 1:1–17 and Luke 3:23–38.  One account is from Joseph’s side, and the other is from Mary’s side.  Both accounts are rich with interesting characters that can be weaved into the Christmas story. The origin of the date of Christmas, December 25, is another topic that can be researched. For many years, people thought it was arbitrarily chosen in an attempt to override a pagan holiday, but it was not. Recent research by Thomas J. Talley testifies to that.

Taking any of these steps can gradually bring Baby Jesus back to life, and lead to a revitalization of Christianity, something we terribly need. Ben Stein, a speech writer for Presidents Nixon and Ford, could see this back in 2005. At that time, he provided some insightful commentary about what I call the infanticide of Baby Jesus.

He said, “I am a Jew, and every single one of my ancestors was Jewish. And it does not bother me even a little bit when people call those beautiful lit up, bejeweled trees Christmas trees. I don’t feel threatened. I don’t feel discriminated against. That’s what they are: Christmas trees. It doesn’t bother me a bit when people say, ‘Merry Christmas’ to me. I don’t think they are slighting me or getting ready to put me in a ghetto. In fact, I kind of like it. It shows that we are all brothers and sisters celebrating this happy time of year. It doesn’t bother me at all that there is a manger scene on display at a key intersection near my beach house in Malibu. If people want a crèche, it’s just as fine with me as is the Menorah a few hundred yards away.”

Along those lines, Merry Christmas to all! ;-)

Kathleen Laplante is a member of the Catholic Church. She can be reached at klaplante2@yahoo.com

Copyright (c) 2010 originally published in The Valley Patriot, reprinted with permission.

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