September 12, 2017

National Suicide Prevention Week 2017


*My book is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, CreateSpace, and several other websites which can be found by doing a search on the title. It is a memoir.

*If you haven't checked out my Facebook page re: my book (Unraveling My Father's Suicide) and suicide-related topics in general, here's your chance:

                Go to:

It includes snippets and images, along with personal sharings, to encourage both those who are struggling with suicide and those who are struggling with being left behind after someone else's suicide, also known as a suicide survivor.

*American Association of Suicidology (AAS)
  AAS Mission Statement: To promote the understanding and prevention of suicide and support those who have been affected by it.

  AAS Vision Statement: We are an inclusive community that envisions a world where people know how to prevent suicide and fine hope and healing.


*American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP)
  AFSP raises awareness, funds scientific research and provides resources and aid to those affected by suicide. 


*Google It!

June 14, 2017

Melkite Greek Catholic Bishop Nicholas J. Samra Ordains Deacon Dennis McCarthy to the Priesthood

Melkite Greek Catholic Bishop Nicholas J. Samra [Eastern Byzantine] ordained the married Deacon Dennis McCarthy to the priesthood on June 10, 2017. The ordination took place at Our Lady of Perpetual Help Melkite Greek Catholic Church in Worcester, MA, where a joyful reception was held afterward.

Bishop Nicholas Samra vests Father Dennis McCarthy with the epitrachelion (stole).
Photo by Eric Ewanco.

Bishop Nicholas J. Samra gives Father Dennis McCarthy the epitaphios
which gives him authorization from the bishop to celebrate the liturgy.
Photo by Eric Ewanco.

Lisa McCarthy, wife of newly ordained and fully vested Fr. Dennis McCarthy (far right), and Bishop Nicholas J. Samra pose at the altar of the Melkite Greek [Eastern Byzantine] Catholic Church, Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Worcester, MA, to mark the uplifting occasion of Deacon McCarthy's ordination to the priesthood. Photo by Eric Ewanco.

Fr. McCarthy is one of the few married Catholic priests in our country. This was made possible in 2014 when Pope Francis lifted the longstanding ban on Eastern Rite married clergy in the diaspora, which includes the United States. When the ordination was complete, many proclaimed, "Axios!" "Axios!" which means "being worthy of" or "deserving of." It is an acclamation often made by the faithful at the ordination of Eastern deacons, priests, and bishops.

Succeeding Fr. Ed Kakaty, Fr. McCarthy has assumed assignment as pastor of St. Ann Melkite Greek Catholic Church in Waterford, CT. Axios!


photos - Eric Ewanco
Note: I was unable to attend. Eric Ewanco provided many of these details and the photos.

June 02, 2017

Our Lady of Guadalupe Shrine Trip Report

Minor Basilica of Our Lady of Guadalupe
My trip was wonderful!

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The Minor Basilica of Our Lady of Guadalupe in Mexico City looks quite modern, and unbeknownst to me, there are several other churches and chapels, all open and active, on the same property. Juan Diego's tilma, or cloak, in which he placed the roses to convince the local bishop that she asked for a shrine at Tepeyac Hill, resides in the Minor Basilica.

Read more details of the story of the Patroness of the Americas and Mexico, and the Patroness of the Unborn, here. Be sure to scroll down once you're there.

                      Other churches on the site. The ones in the middle on the hill are at Tepeyac Hill.
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It is very common to see crucifixes in Mexico with a bloody Jesus.
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                   Eastern-looking Church, but it's not.        Depiction of Juan Diego w/his roses in his tilma.
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If you go to the Shrine, I'd recommend taking a commercial tour on one day so you can get the lay of the land. My fellow tour mates had to keep calling me so the tour could move on to the next section. I just wanted to rest in prayer at each stop - which is why I went back the next day on my own. Then I could take it in in a prayerful manner. It was wonderful.

Click here to view the video. If Facebook prompts you to create an account, you don't have to. Just click on "No Thanks" (or whatever version they use that day) at the very bottom and you'll be taken to it.

Many Blessings,
Kathleen + 

May 31, 2017

We [two single people] Had Sex. Now What?

I like this article below. It acknowledges our shortcomings and helps us to renew our faith!

So many other articles talk about how to strengthen yourself from ever falling short of the Catholic mark. It is all good information, but the reality is that people do fall short - and then struggle with how to recoup. This article helps.

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March 13, 2017

The Wound of Misunderstanding

Sad. That's how I feel. I wish I had the analogy I have now, when I went out for dinner and a walk with a woman I know. We talked about marriage and divorce and families and children. She struggled when I told her I had severe postpartum and major depression (Is any depression not severe?) when my sons were younger, such that I let their Dad be the primary caretaker when we got divorced. (Today they are grown and on their own.) She asked if I ever regretted my decision.

At the time, the question felt in-congruent, but I couldn't find the words to discuss it with her. Time has brought me insight. Regret? No, I didn't and don't regret my decision in the sense that I wished I never made it or I thought I was wrong for having made it. I knew it was the best arrangement for my sons. I did grieve however, for the lost time we could have had if I were healthier back then. I still feel it today at times. The emotional "I wish it could be different [for all of us]," but when I return to the rational version of that, it helps keep me grounded.

The woman with whom I was walking asked me if I had to do it all over again, would I make the same decision. I think my answer was hard for her to hear. She is a very protective and high energy type of Mom. My answer to her question was, "Yes, if everything was the same, and I was battling major depression such that I was incapacitated to take care of even myself - and my former husband was reliable, loving, caring, present, and put our children first, and did a wonderful job to include me in our sons' lives, like my former husband did - I would do it all over again."

I was incapacitated in ways that still bring tears to my eyes. Not being able to care for my sons due to major depression is like not being able to care for one's children due to cancer and undergoing the debilitating procedure of chemotherapy. It just can't be done without some level of neglect occurring, and I wish I could have conveyed that to this woman. Unfortunately, I think she left our visit judging me for what she thought was my choice to harm my sons by not choosing to let their Dad be the primary custodial parent. If only I knew the cancer analogy at the time.

I didn't give up everything in the divorce. I maintained and stayed responsible for the joint legal and physical custody I signed up for. My former husband and I lived quite a distance from each other, such that our set up was very similar to one parent having primary custody. Naturally, most people would assume it is the mother who has that. In this day of diversity and equal rights. one would think I would not have experienced judgment by others, but that's not true. Thankfully, more people have comforted and consoled me in my situation than have case me aside. They gave me room to grow and to heal and to internalize everything. Many professionals were also tremendous sources of help. I cannot thank them enough for having gone beyond the call of duty over the years.

So no, I do not regret my decisions, but I certainly grieve the losses associated with them.

Thankfully, Jesus is the ultimate Consoler, Advocate, and Judger, who is available to us all. If I knew about joining my suffering, and to the extent I could, joining the suffering of my children and former husband, to His salvific suffering on the Cross, I would have gone to him in prayer for that. Now I do go, and I carry any residual forward.

You can go too. Besides, what better use is there for one's suffering?

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December 10, 2016

Reality of Abortion & Artificial Contraception

I reprint this poem every Christmas.  It's worth some solemn meditation.

Lament of St. Nicholas by Paul Murano
('Twas the Week Before Christmas - in Contemporary America)

Twas the week before Christmas and throughout heaven above
the angels and saints were proclaiming God's love

Nicholascalled Jesus, Faithful servant on earth
it's time for children to celebrate my birth
Go on and inspire the parents of these
to all of their hearts I now give you the keys

Yes Lord! cried Nicolas with the greatest of joys
I love helping out with their clothes and their toys
But most of all Lord what I work for these days
is leading their minds back to you and your ways

So he started his mission, this jolly ol’ soul,
to the homes of God's children, the young and the old
The trees were in place and the candy canes hung
but he stared at the fireplace as carols were sung

Something's wrong! said the saint, as it paused his delight
Less than half of the stockings are hanging this night!

I see cars, DVR's, home computers, and more
but I hear not the laughter that I heard once before!

So he checked his list twice but it just didn't jive
there were many more children that were meant to be alive

Reality of Contraception & Abortion
Dear Lord, cried St. Nicholas with a voice of surprise
Many children are missing! as the tears filled his eyes

Oh Nicholas my servant, I thought that you knew
in many heart$$ green has replaced pink and blue

And Nicholas, said Jesus with a sad solemn voice

in the past 40 years this is what they've called "choice"

Then He took the saint's list and divided it thrice
and revealed the true meaning of naughty and nice:

This first group has children I could never create
my people used barriers and drugs with their mate
The second are the children that had never been born
from the wombs of their mothers they were taken and torn
And the third group are now all the children on earth
they're the ones that did make it through conception and birth

Oh Jesus I'm sorry! ol' St. Nicholas cried

This shouldn't be happening - they forgot why You died!

Help me to show them how to be brave

like the poor Virgin Mary giving birth in a cave!

I Am the hope many don't know, Jesus said
so go forth dear St. Nicholas – my light you must spread

'Twas the week before Christmas and St. Nicholas did pray:
Merry Christmas to all ... and to all a new day!


Photo and color scheme were added by me.
This is a reprint from 2013.

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November 03, 2016

Enriching the ProLife Discussion About Babies

In a secular world like ours, it is challenging to be ProLife. So many ProChoicers seem to misunderstand the concept that a child is being murdered in every abortion. Or maybe it's that they understand the concept but deny it. 

What is denial? The action of declaring some truth to be untrue, or,

"Denial is one of the most common defense mechanisms that we all use, pretending that an uncomfortable thing did not happen." -

"Denial...[is when] the individual recognizes or is conscious of the existence of the truth or fact but consciously refuses to accept it as such." -

As Lisa Smiley says in her video, it doesn't matter. When a woman becomes pregnant, everyone asks how the baby is - from Day 1. Do you know the baby's sex yet? Is the baby kicking or moving around? What names are you considering for the baby? The baby. The baby. The baby. We use that term because it is a baby from Day 1, the moment of conception.

Pregnant women across the globe read and sing and play music to their baby in the womb. Why? Because inside her womb is a baby who is capable of internalizing knowledge.

I often sense a visceral tension when I am chatting about abortion with someone who is ProChoice. It is almost as if they know it's a baby in the womb, but they don't want to be found out about it. Instead, they direct the discussion to the mother's right to choose, which is a valid topic, but I recently heard a different talk by Lisa Smiley and she put it well. If a mother abuses her child, is that ok? No. If a mother drives down the street and decides to throw the baby out, is that ok? No. If a mother encloses her child in a small space and fills that space with cigarette smoke non-stop, is that ok? No. Then why is it ok for a mother to kill her unborn baby? It's not, especially when you think about it from the ethical and moral perspectives just discussed. 

ProLife is not about taking choices away from pregnant women. It is about giving pregnant women ethical and moral solutions to manage their crises. 

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